tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post390817765255215559..comments2024-01-17T14:19:04.423+00:00Comments on Why I Left Christianity: Not a Happy CamperLori G.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00401861923744458664noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-64802465555770952122012-05-09T22:29:47.916+01:002012-05-09T22:29:47.916+01:00Dear Author,
I think you allowed men's percep...Dear Author, <br />I think you allowed men's perception of God to cloud your way to finding and following the real God. I'm a Christian and a mom of two, and I don't believe God wants me to be a robot and follow my every husband's command. He does/says/commands a lot of dumb things. I also have a chronic illness and I don't feel like looking like a Stepford wife every moment, and I'm convinced that God is okay with that. <br />God gave me a brain to make my own decisions. <br />God didn't tell you to pick an arrogant jerk who thought he could lord his authority over you. Who really told you to do that? Parents? Church? Pastor? Some human being, no doubt. Not God. <br />Our job is to follow God, not man. And what are his commands? To love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself. <br />Cheers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-87043124481159920582012-01-27T15:06:01.426+00:002012-01-27T15:06:01.426+00:00Its funny isn't it - i grew up in a totally no...Its funny isn't it - i grew up in a totally non-religious liberal family - my brother is gay, and I was bi-sexual for years, it was never a problem - in fact my mother seemed to relish that we were different. <br />I have since found Christianity, to great relief. I have noticed something among the many people I know - those that were raised christian a lot of the time reject it. I'm not sure why but sexuality seems to be a major reason - not necessarily the need to explore same sex attraction - but just the desire to explore sexuality full stop.<br />Yet having immersed myself in the world of sexual exploration - I can honestly say hand on heart I have never met ANYONE to whom it is a long-term satisfying lifestyle choice. Although many claim it is when you peel away the image they present and reach into their heart - you find many many hurting people - even if their life is interspersed with sexual pleasure.<br /><br />I believe wholeheartedly we were designed to be in a life-long pair bond, that never breaks. I also believe this pair-bond was designed between a man and a woman. It is up to us to choice wisely who we make this pair-bond with, before we bond fully with them. This takes time - and we must re-learn the art of courting.<br /><br />Just because we have desires outside of this does not make them right, as one could argue it does not make them wrong either.<br /><br />I have co-created two broken families, I have had sexually transmitted diseases, and had an abortion at 18. On could say I did not practice safe sex - which at times I did not, but this dramatically misses the point. Safe sex can not protect the heart. I see this pattern, and worse all around me. I, as have many people from other liberal families have experienced a tremendous amount of suffering and pain that this so called pleasure/freedom search has induced - practicing safe sex or not.<br /><br />I know what I would prefer - and if I could go back in time and take a different path I would in a heart beat.<br /><br />I have soaked many pillows with tears.<br /><br />I am now freely choosing to not have sex before marriage and it has helped me regain some kind of sanity - in a totally insane world - I dont want to be someones pleasure doll - or to use others for pleasure even if it is in the name of love and freedom. <br /><br />I want to be in a life-long bond that reaches deep into my heart, touches my very soul and lasts a lifetime.<br /><br />Of course making the choice I have does not guarantee this, but it offers me a great protection that my past life did not. <br /><br />Sex bonds us whether we like it or not - when that bond breaks down it can hurt badly. Children that come through this broken bond also get hurt very badly. <br /><br />God designed us the way God did - we can rebel against that with fervent might or we can submit to this design and heal our battered souls.<br /><br />There are many perversions that most people know are wrong, and we do not try to justify them. Same sex attraction is a perversion of that I am sure.<br /><br />You seem like a very hurt, angry woman - desperate to find freedom from your conditioning. I understand as much as I can. But unfortunately I do not believe for a second that the path you are currently on will bring you the happiness and pleasure you seem to be searching for.<br /><br />As women God did not want us to abused by men, and many many men - Christian or otherwise abuse women - God wanted us to be deeply honored by men - Christian or otherwise.<br /><br />We are not born equal to men - this is an erroneous concept that is obvious - we are the 'weaker vessel' and this is not a bad thing - but a good thing. Men need to honor, protect, nourish and love us for that. Not batter us verbally, emotionally, or sexually because of this - this is a mis-representation of what God designed. The world will be a lot happier when we submit to Gods design and men honor women in the way that encourages them to feel safe and loved and protected<br /><br />warm regardsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-67590052581947068652011-07-16T00:25:25.573+01:002011-07-16T00:25:25.573+01:00First, I understand where you're coming from. ...First, I understand where you're coming from. Not only did I attend "Christian" camps, I also had the wonderful pleasure of attending a private "Christian" school before going to a public high school.<br />The reason I put quotes around the word Christian in the above context is because I also was taught the same elements you were, and as a result, was not a big fan of Christianity until I learned one thing: they were all wrong.<br />The Bible is very clear that as women we are to save ourselves for our husband, as he is for us. It is also clear that the wife should honor her husband and the husband will honor his wife. <br />The points you mention for reasons to leave Christianity are not valid points. They are a rejection of the false rules that unfortunately, many Christians have created themselves. Christianity is not rules. We are ALL made in God's image: women, men, all races, all genders and even all sexual orientations: we are His image. The Bible does give a guideline for how to live our life, but it also points that the most important thing in life is love.<br />Those people who preach Christianity as strictly as you and I both experienced are false prophets in my opinion. <br />You don't like the fake rules, but did you actually look at what the Bible says? You couldn't have, because if you did, you would understand that those people who preach what you mentioned above took the scripture out of context and for that, will have a high price to pay.<br />Fortunately, if you accepted Christ at one point in time, you can't get rid of Him- though you think you may have. Like I always say, some of God's children will be brought to heaven kicking and screaming. What I do strongly urge you to do is to go back and actually build a valid conclusion for yourself as to whether or not Christianity is a legitimate faith. I believe it is. <br />Peace and Love, and I pray you will find the answers you are looking for.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-71199885476650104082011-05-31T15:25:27.842+01:002011-05-31T15:25:27.842+01:00God's true church here under the formations of...God's true church here under the formations of the nations. Sorry to all of the wounded warriors who find their way to this blog.<br />He knows of the pain and hurt you all have endured. May the Holy Spirit reveal his love and not that of failed father's and people in authority who mis- used their positions in a church that is being re- formatted to align with the return of Jesus Christ.<br /><br />http://www.bibletribes.org/<br /><br /><br />garrygarry umphresshttp://newgenerationawake.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-24778160901717877452011-05-12T08:09:38.498+01:002011-05-12T08:09:38.498+01:00that's a problem with alot of churches apparen...that's a problem with alot of churches apparently. They focus so much on the woman's role they forget or neglect to say what God expects of men. Right after the woman's role is defined it says a man must love his wife to the point he would die for her. for what man would ever harm his own body? Even after this it says parents should not tease their children. It's easy to drive people away from Christianity when a fallible being decides he knows best.Leslie LeBlanchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07729095946940641063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-31442152329431264082011-04-12T03:51:27.619+01:002011-04-12T03:51:27.619+01:00That church's advoce to young women was downri...That church's advoce to young women was downright toxic -- a recipe for unhappy women, unhappy marriages, and potential abuse.<br /><br />Why weren't men being encouraged to make their wives happy? Shouldn't spouses support EACH OTHER and try to make EACH OTHER happy?Ahabhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14675629709031865432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-80222715579745586612011-04-04T15:37:18.899+01:002011-04-04T15:37:18.899+01:00Sorry for the vent. Lol It was a lovely post, trul...Sorry for the vent. Lol It was a lovely post, truly. And I'm sorry you had endure such indirect insults your way. <br /><br />It is unfortunate that your son would call you a 'femiNazi..' clearly he's pleased with the way the world caters to men (and with reason.) However, weren't nazis MEN? Hmm... sounds like he's trying to blame women for something men have done (oooh, yet again. lol)<br /><br />You should remind him that, unlike the man Hitler, you're not trying to suppress, kill, murder, or humiliate those who oppose your views. Was a nazi someone who made valid observations? Or destroyed? If so, are men nazis when they commit crimes in the news? Are philosophers nazis for making observations? XD<br /><br />Just irk him right back with thoughts like that or something.<br /><br />Blessings!Otherworldly Applenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-89394015492169833632011-04-04T15:31:35.049+01:002011-04-04T15:31:35.049+01:00I have no problem submitting to men. So long as th...I have no problem submitting to men. So long as they're the GODS they claim to be. Unfortunately, they seem more proven to be a lot more DENSER than woman (due to overdose of testosterone) so, I'm sorry, if that's the case... they are not fit, by nature, to be 'leaders' or 'infallible.' <br /><br />Also, what's with the anti-scientific bullcrap? "For man did not come out of women... but woman of man..." clearly men who wrote the bible were PISSED that women were (quite literally) the CREATORS of man. So they had to invent a little myth to back up their penis propaganda.<br /><br />Woman came out of a man... yeah right! And faeries do my laundry every night. Sure... there's evidence that I do it MYSELF... but hey, anti-science/mythology is always like that right? The point is to believe the ridiculous lie over common sense. ;)Otherworldly Applenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-36975873719358478372011-03-30T03:28:40.473+01:002011-03-30T03:28:40.473+01:00I meant to add with the whole grandmother thing......I meant to add with the whole grandmother thing... I'd rather bring myself a drink, make my own dinner, and wash my own clothes... never having to worry about another person for the rest of my life, before I lived like that!Araehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00831491349360696328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-19112649106157962882011-03-30T03:26:42.933+01:002011-03-30T03:26:42.933+01:00I honestly don't know what I exactly believe i...I honestly don't know what I exactly believe in. I haven't read a single story in the bible yet, and don't really know much about anything the "Lord" says. I do know some man wrote that bible and it isn't direct. <br />I DO know, I couldn't agree more with your statements. I'm a firm DIS-believer in love, so this isn't really an issue for me. But, I have a grandmother who stands at the door waiting for my grandpa with a drink, makes/brings him his dinner and lunch, cleans all of his clothes...she'd basically wipe his ass if that was ethical. <br />Secondly, if this is how the bible elaborates a marriage... I'm kind of glad I haven't picked that book up yet!Araehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00831491349360696328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1064910842157504583.post-39307955185646071142011-03-23T05:53:22.352+00:002011-03-23T05:53:22.352+00:00my mom stayed in a marriage with my dad for many y...my mom stayed in a marriage with my dad for many years longer than she should have because she was such a "good christian" and divorce was NOT AN OPTION for a christian. in the end, my dad took his abuse so far he caused permanent damage to her body. eleven years later, she is still unable to work and relies totally on social security disability. <br /><br />i hate the christians' views on divorce.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com